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This is the Amanda Gayle Carter (Amanda Gayle Fulgham, Amanda Gayle Gray, Amanda Gayle Montgomery, Amanda G. Carter FNP-C, Amanda G. Carter, MSN, ‘Mad Dog Mandy”) Fact checking website.
I am already aware that it will ignite a bit of a dumpster fire. I am aware that people will wonder why I’ve written this stuff. People will be led to believe I’m difficult and “irrational.”
I am already subject to a continuous smear campaign, intentional triggering, screenshotting and a whole buffet of direct lies, so why not. I have been quiet for two years now, yet Amanda is still out in the world lying…playing victim; who knows what all.
I did let a few people know about some of the story in the beginning, but only about 6 people who I had direct evidence that she was lying to; but now her audience has grown to such a profound level that a public statement is the only valid response.
So… In that light, I am going to do my best to stick to things that I have experienced directly, or are easily proven, or things to which I have easy to produce evidence whenever possible. This is definitely not the raving of a bitter madman; this is just statement of facts. I will avoid claiming rumor as truth, and if a subject is suspect…I will make a note of that. I will work to avoid subjectivity as much as possible. This site is an accounting and a rebuttal… fact checking only; my defense in the court of public opinion to which I have, up to this time… for two entire years, lacked representation in.
At this point, I will tell you, I believe I have been dealing with what is known as a “covert narcissist”. If you are unaware of the term, as I was, I urge you to research it…there are many good resources out there, including youtube.
But I also urge you to take the “covert narcissist” label from me with a grain of salt..it’s just my belief having lived the experience – all the boxes are ticked, all the cycles are valid, and the end result of playing victim and smearing/lying/personality morphing… have painted the same picture.
But I am not a therapist, nor a professional mental specialist. So… With that out of the way-
There are multiple reasons this site exists.
- It’s therapeutic for me. Though my story isn’t out here yet, I can say unabashedly that the cruelty, debauchery and pure evil I’ve experienced during the 15 years I was with and 12 of which ”married” to this person is unbelievable. The continued victim attacks for the last two years have only been the icing on a truly gigantic trashcake.
I did promise I would eventually share the full story, and this is the platform for it. It will be awhile before I put the entire story out however, because I also did promise it would not be made public until my younger children have grown up a bit more. I’m going to try to stick to this, though to quote Homer:
“Achilles glared at him and answered, “Fool, prate not to me about covenants. There can be no covenants between men and lions, wolves and lambs can never be of one mind, but hate each other out and out and through. Therefore there can be no understanding between you and me, nor may there be any covenants between us, till one or other shall fall“
We will see if I can hold to the nonexistent covenant between dissimilar creatures as we go…
Also, I don’t want to post the full story I have without the proof…I have such proof, but what I have is extremely NSFW. (pictures of people with two guys at once, two women and one guy, woman on woman….just a ton of stuff). This proof presents tremendous legal challenges. I will probably hint at some of the things, maybe tell some of it, but I cannot at this time completely divulge the full nature of the beast due to laws and children. But it IS coming. It is just a matter of appropriate timing and censoring of content. Or getting to the point I don’t care, or have nothing to lose. Or maybe…just maybe…I will figure out a way to make it legal. - People need to be aware of what they’re dealing with. This person is…. There’s probably a lot of negative words for it. But I will not throw mud in such a way… baseless name calling… so let’s just stick to the facts with their evidence. But anyone involved with this individual deserves to know the history, and without the lies and victim-blaming. They need to be warned. It’s kind of a “public service”
I do believe I have been dealing with a textbook covert narcissist. She is very good at creating an image and a front, and can maintain these fronts for years; morphing her personality depending on who she’s around or her current objective and intensely controlling her social media and public image to present a mask. Everything holds to the pattern, including the two years of “love bombing” I experienced from her. So it is important that people that do know….share their knowledge. - The final and most important reason this site exists, is because this person continuously spreads rumor, half-truths and lies, all from behind a false-face. I don’t know if it’s pre-emptive to “get ahead” of the story I will tell, or if it’s just a strong desire for attention and “victim” sympathy…I suspect both, she benefits greatly from being a “victim”; but I am fully tired of the noise I constantly hear from that side of the fence. So this site is my answer to the lies that have been spread. I myself have been silent publicly about her actions and nature; only talking to people close to me, trying to honor non-disparagement clauses and be my best self… but over time it has been wearisome. Especially in dealing with the passively aggressive, “under the table” ways that she avoids explicit violation of the non-disparagement clause.
For awhile, this will be just a fact checking site. Whenever a lie is discovered, I will set it straight here. Later, I will post the entire story. And trust me… you will be utterly shocked. If you want to keep tabs on the site, you can subscribe for updates.
Also, I am aware that she is extremely nice, and apologetic in her messaging to me. Remorseful even. Says all the right words. I am aware that I appear emotional, angry and difficult in messages greater than a year ago. I am aware that this makes excellent screenshot material. But to get slightly ahead of that (if it even matters) I will say a few things here:
- learn about covert narcissism, and those behaviors. Typically, those types of individuals know how to “say the right things” and are the masters of setting the stage and gaslighting the public.
- those types are known to surreptitiously trigger a situation and then use the target’s emotional response to “prove” they are irrational. Similar to being kids… Mother gets on to two siblings “you two quit fighting. If I hear one more peep out of ya’ll you’re going to your room!” One sibling sneaks a pinch on the other, and the the pinched one makes an outburst and smacks the pincher. Mother turns, and the aggressor is sitting quietly with an indignant “I don’t know why he smacked me!” face, while the victim is red faced and visibly angry. Mom sends the victim to the room. This is the type of behavior I have been dealing with, ad nauseum.
- These types are known to beguile the public with charm and niceties. They’re experts at presenting, at any time, the face people want to see; while being a totally different person to those who are stuck in their life with no avenue out. In two instances I can recall, these behaviors were proven to me. Once, I asked her “You’ll crawl on broken glass to make your friends happy, but you treat me like garbage! Why?” her answer at the time was “Because they can leave!” Another time I directly asked her “How could you do these things to me?” and her answer was “Because you were never going to leave” I don’t think it can be any clearer.
- I’ve had to learn to look at actions and ignore the words. You can say all the nice words in the world, but if your actions do not say the same thing, the words are valueless. You cannot claim remorse for having done horrible things to a person, but at the same time, lie publicly to everyone and claim your victim did those exact things to you. The argument can be made, that they are attempting to prevent their story from getting out… but the fact is, there are many, many ways to achieve the same effect without out-right lying. I have lived many years dealing with actions that don’t match words. These days, I have no reasons to bend myself into believing the words. I react to the actions; primarily in the past… harshly… because they were extremely emotionally charged situations… paired with the pure frustration that this person consistently gets away with bad behaviors. On my reactions… I have reacted in a normal manner given the circumstances (which will be clearer throughout the fact-checks).
- The public loves a comeback story. You can be evil… but say the right words, “I was bad, but I’ve changed.” Or found Jesus. Or became a Buddist. Just show off the “changes” publicly, and privately you can still be awful and do whatever you like. The public will love you and make you a hero. This site is an answer to that… I have heard “I’ve changed, I’m different” so many times I can’t count them… only to have the same or worse actions repeated. I’ve heard “I’m remorseful. I have a cross to bear” yet at the same time experienced the ‘remorseful’ person attempting to kick the victim in the head when they’re not looking. This is an answer to that.
So lets get into it.